As many of you have heard our Founder Rosemary Dede (@rosemary.dede on IG and FB) was invited to give a talk at the Black Female Achievers event earlier this month in the Netherlands. It was an incredible experience we won't forget - full of some amazingly talented WOC that we are thrilled to have connected with.
The theme of self care and self love, which she knew was a sign since our upcoming retreat is all about self love and giving you the honeymoon you deserve (more info at the end). She gave a speech that we still watch to this day! Make sure to watch it on our IGTV here if you haven't already. Here's a quick summary and highlights that you should take away:
According to a research study in the US, black children are said to be perceived as more grown up than their peers of other races. We know that generally speaking being raised in single parent homes, the children often are made to take on more responsibilities, earlier. In this case at a lot of times your upbringing teaches you, subconsciously or consciously, to take care of others before yourself, and also teaches you that the concept of self love is selfish.
That is why we think it is important teach our kids early about self love so that this is not something they learn as adults. Self love and Self Care is more than a trend and it starts with putting yourself first and setting healthy boundaries. Use these two self love affirmations to guide you into becoming more loving to yourself:
"What is in my cup is for me and what spills over is for others"
"When I say yes to myself am I saying no to myself?"
Do you agree with this? We took to the DMs to find out what the rest of the tribe thought, and we fell in love with some of the responses.
@nadielliz (below): I think for me it started with mixed messages as to what is expected and even what love looks like. The inaccurate depiction of what a woman should be, especially the message that as a woman, one must sacrifice in order to receive love. Also seeing the women around me put everyone and everything before themselves, sent the message that to love myself would be selfish. To show kindness to myself first is unchristian like too. For me it’s not so much about self love as a woman of color but more about self love as a woman. (I’m from St. lucia, more than 90% of the island is of the diaspora).
@dialouge.nyne (below): I loved the idea of exploring self-love and self-care beyond trends. It’s practice beyond theory and highly unique based on our own needs, trauma, goals, and desires. As for my childhood and self-love, I grew up in a stable, loving environment. Yet I realized as an adult that there were some explicit convos missing, and that combined with “daddy issues” challenged my self-love.
@the_fit_butterflygoddess (below): A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.
Are you on Instagram? Would you like to join our DM engagement groups? we have 3 so far, filled with talented likeminded WOC around the world. Every two weeks we discuss holistic wellness practices and life experiences to improve our bodies minds and souls. We are a sisterhood that supports and uplifts each other as well as boosting each other’s exposure. Send us a DM on @shetribeconnect to for more information.
For all our lovely new subscribers, did you know our second retreat ” The Self Love Retreat” is coming on next year in Ghana, West Africa? Join us on the SELF LOVE RETREAT: YOUR VERY OWN HONEYMOON, for a full transformative, immersive spiritual and cultural experience with daily yoga and meditation, introspective self love workshops, excursions to amazing sites across two cities in Ghana. In a luxury environment with like minded sisters. What’s the end goal? To unlearn self sabotaging habits that are restricting you from becoming your best self. To show you that perfect love start from within, and not from external sources. Truly “your very own honeymoon” get 15% off if you purchase your ticket before the end of the month. Please Email or DM us for a chat and visit shetribeconnect.com for more information.